How do I bring up fertility with my cancer doctor?
You can simply tell your team that you want to talk about fertility. The National Cancer Institute says your doctor or nurse may raise the topic. But sometimes you need to start the conversation yourself. Being direct helps make sure your questions get answered.
Raise it as early as you can, before treatment starts. The steps that work best to protect fertility usually happen then. A written list of questions makes the conversation easier. You can also bring a partner or a trusted person with you.
Here are questions you might ask before treatment. Could this treatment affect my fertility? Are there options that might cause fewer fertility problems? Can you refer me to a fertility specialist, such as a reproductive endocrinologist? Who can help me understand insurance and cost?
NCI also notes that research found survivors were less regretful if they had met with a fertility specialist. That held whether or not they chose to preserve their fertility. A social worker or patient navigator on your team can help you find fertility resources and support. Your care team can point you to the right specialists.
Want the full picture? Read our complete explanation: Talking With Your Team About Fertility and Sex
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