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When a child has cancer, brothers and sisters have their own fears and needs. Keeping them informed, keeping routines where possible, and giving them time and reassurance helps them cope. Many hospitals offer sibling support programs.
Siblings of a child with cancer often feel worried, left out, jealous, or guilty.
Honest, age-appropriate information helps siblings, just as it helps the patient.
Keeping familiar routines and staying connected helps siblings feel secure.
Reassure siblings that the cancer is not contagious and not their fault.
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When one child has cancer, their brothers and sisters have worries of their own. They may feel scared, left out, or jealous of the attention. They may feel guilty for having those feelings. All of that is normal. Keeping siblings informed and connected helps them cope.
Keep them informed
Honest information, in words that fit their age, helps siblings just as it helps the child who is sick. Let them ask questions. Reassure them that cancer is not contagious and that nothing they did caused it. Without real information, children often imagine something worse.
Cancer is not contagious, and it is not the siblings' fault.
Keep routines and connection
Try to keep familiar routines where you can. School, meals, and bedtime all help children feel secure. Spend one-on-one time when you can. Find small ways for siblings to help and stay in touch, such as making cards or visiting when it is allowed.
Find extra support
Many children's hospitals run sibling programs, groups, and activities made just for brothers and sisters. Ask your care team or social worker what is on offer. Tell them if a sibling is having a hard time.
When to get help sooner
Most siblings feel sad or angry at times, and that passes. Some signs mean a child needs more than time.
- Call 911, or call or text the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, if a sibling talks about wanting to die, hurting themselves, or not wanting to be here.
- Call your child's doctor or the hospital social worker the same day if a sibling stops eating, will not get out of bed, or says they feel hopeless.
- Call within a day or two if a sibling's sadness, anger, or fear lasts for weeks, or if grades, sleep, or friendships start slipping.
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How do siblings usually react?
Brothers and sisters may feel worried, scared, left out, jealous of the attention their sibling gets, or guilty for having those feelings. These reactions are normal.
Should I tell siblings what is happening?
Yes. Honest, age-appropriate information helps siblings cope and prevents them from imagining something worse. Let them ask questions and share their feelings.
Is cancer contagious?
No. It helps to reassure siblings that they cannot catch cancer from their brother or sister and that nothing they did caused it.
How can I help siblings feel included?
Keep familiar routines where you can, spend one-on-one time when possible, and find small ways for siblings to help and stay connected, such as making cards or visiting when allowed.
Is there special support for siblings?
Many children's hospitals offer sibling support programs, groups, and activities. Ask your care team or social worker what is available.
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